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The Power of Assumptions

by Meredith Bell

A few months ago, we had a strong storm pass through southeast Virginia. I was a little concerned about the road to my house while I was driving home from work. You see, that road has a low spot; and a rainstorm can cause flooding during high tide. Now when I say flooding, I don't mean that cars are swept away. But water can cover the road at times like this.
As I turned onto the road, I saw water ahead, and there was a car stopped about 50 feet in front of the water. The woman driving that car would move forward slowly and then back up...and she did this three different times.
I could tell she wasn't sure whether it was safe to drive through. Then she stuck her arm out the driver's side window and waved it in the air. I wasn't sure what that meant, so I waited to see what she was going to do next.
A few minutes later, the driver put her car in park, jumped out, slammed the door and stomped back towards me. She YELLED at me, visibly angry and upset, saying that SHE was not going to try and go through and I could go ahead if I wanted to.
She was extremely emotional and agitated. I remember thinking, "She has really come unglued about this water, and she's taking her fear out on me."
In the past I'd made it through OK when the same stretch of road was flooded, so I decided to drive up closer and check it out. I'm an entrepreneur, after all, and I'm always taking calculated risks.
As I approached the water, I looked out the window and could see that it was only a few inches deep. So I decided to go ahead.
I kept my foot off the accelerator and just glided along to avoid splashing water on the engine. As I got to the dry pavement on the other side, I looked in my rearview mirror and I could see the woman was still fretting over what to do.
That incident taught me a lesson about how assumptions influence behavior. The driver couldn't tell how deep the water was, so she assumed it was too deep to drive through. She was so fearful that it didn't occur to her to get close enough to see for herself. Her emotions over-ruled her ability to assess the situation rationally.
I believe the lesson from that day relates to the turbulent economic times we're going through right now.
When you face uncertainty about the future, it's easy to feel anxious and afraid. From a distance, things can look pretty scary because you can't see clearly what lies ahead. You can start assuming that something really bad will happen, so you become paralyzed and do nothing. The lack of action reinforces your fears, and you might even lash out at others in your frustration, just like that driver did.

So here's the speed tip for this issue.
Whenever you experience fear, step back and ask yourself two questions:

  • What assumptions are causing me to have this fear?
  • How can I check whether these assumptions are actually true?

When you find yourself in a difficult situation and you're not sure what could happen, don't automatically assume the worst. Move forward, trusting that you'll learn how things really are and what you need to do. Taking action will also give you the confidence you need to take the next step.
And be sure to give yourself credit. You've faced the unknown before, and you did fine. Reflecting on your past successes serves as a reminder that you can handle your current challenge, too.

Copyright © 2009 Meredith M. Bell
Meredith Bell is president of Performance Support Systems. Millions of participants worldwide have used 20/20 Insight, an onsite survey and development system that helps people become stronger for life and work. More free articles and videos at or